Overcome rejection

This post has nothing to do with positive thinking or self-fulling prophecy. 

Dear X,

Thanks you for your interest in becoming a (need for recognition) fellow. We regret to inform you that you were not selected…

When is the last time you received such correspondence?

I have been reading so many of these letters that I’ve become “rejection-proof, a new term I’ve come up with to define people who do not let rejections kill their best self.

When I first started receiving these letters, I would become stressed and depressed. Then I started realizing that these letters have nothing to do with me, the rejections are all about the organizations or people who send them. They themselves have their own issues.  Maybe they were drunk or tired when they read my resume or application.  Or maybe it was not a good match? Nothing wrong with that.

From the overwhelming number of emails received lately, here are my seven tips to become rejection-proof.

1- You are more than that

Once we receive a rejection letter, we tend to think that our resume or application reflects who we are, but that’s false. We all know that our value surpasses a piece of paper or a resume. We are more than what is on the application. It’s impossible to summarize our life experiences, what we have been through and our daily activities into a few pages.

2- Look for rejections  

Keep applying for any opportunities that come your way and can help you realize your dreams. Make it an everyday task so that it becomes a natural part of your professional life. Every time you want to conquer new territory, rejection becomes one possible outcome. Don’t let fear poke holes in your courage. Stretch as much as you can.

3- Maybe they are not the right fit

Have you ever thought about that? Maybe these institutions don’t pick you because you don’t fit. On the other end of the spectrum, they might not a best fit for you either. I would rather not be getting married than being with someone who did not have the guts to say no or reject me. Think about every opportunity like this. Would you rather blow-off your career by taking the wrong opportunity?

4- The world is not against you

You are not the only one receiving the rejection letter, so it doesn’t make any sense to feel sorry for yourself.

5- Write them back

90% of time they won’t reply back because they don’t remember or don’t have any real reason behind their decision. In your letter, thank them and do not hesitate to ask for feedback.  If you happen to do that, don’t be bitter. Stay short, professional and show your personality through your correspondence.

6- Pivot

I had a math teacher who used to say: “There are two people who know everything–God and stupid people. You can’t be God”. Use rejections as opportunity to improve your resume, your delivery or your interview skills. Be like a mug: show your different faces without losing your essence. sometimes you just have to change the way you describe a product to sell it.

7- Go on with your life

This is not the end of the world and it would not be wise to spend your valuable time ruminating over rejections. Sometimes the best card you can pull is the “I don’t give a **** card” and move on to the next opportunity. When you think it’s all done, remember this:

Picture Credit: HubSpot

Picture Credit: HubSpot

I believe there are a set of people who here to reject your ideas, your product or anything you have to offer.  If you have anything to offer to this world, you need to become rejection-proof.  That is, unless you are okay with blowing off the next 30 years of your life because of 50 rejections. The world is waiting for your contribution, so please do not let it die because of an email.

One last thing:

Work on yourself until you become far better than what anyone or any organization a could expect from you.